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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library As the old saying goes, forgiveness may be divine, and if recent research is right, it may also be healthy.Recent studies indicate that holding a grudge can trigger a prolonged physical stress response—one that can lead to health complications and inhibit emotional and physical healing. On the flip side, letting go of grudges and bitterness has been shown to lead to healthier relationships, greater psychological well-being, less anxiety and stress, lower blood pressure, and higher self-esteem.Forgiveness is the practice of letting go of thoughts of resentment and revenge. Dr. Fred Luskin, Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, notes that though most of us are not “schooled” in this practice, it can be learned as a skill. Start by forgiving yourself. When we make amends and forgive ourselves, we naturally develop compassion and empathy towards others.Ask for forgiveness. By asking for forgiveness, we inspire others to rise to their own humanity. You might start by simply saying, “I’m sorry” or “I apologize.” Without making excuses, tell the person what caused you to do or say what you did. For example, “I was feeling threatened by your feedback, and lashed out without thinking.” Make it clear that you understand how that must have made them feel, and accept responsibility for your actions.Seek to understand. Don’t jump to conclusions about character or motive and realistically examine what led to the problem. By understanding what prompted the person to act in a certain way may help guide your actions and avoid similar conflict in the future.Understand and express what you feel. Think about why the situation is not okay, practice articulating that, and then share your experience with a someone you trust.Remember it’s to make you feel better. Forgiveness is for you and no one else.Practice a simple stress reduction method. In moments of upset, take a 5-minute break to relax and soothe your body’s fight-or-flight response.Focus on the positive. Forgiveness is about personal power. Look for something positive in the situation, in yourself, or in someone else rather than focusing on old wounds.Practice. Establish forgiveness as a value in your life. Start with small things, let go of little slights and assume the best of others. Practice forgiveness every day so that over time it becomes a habit.Remember, there is power in the act of forgiveness. It can be transformative for those you care about and for yourself. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryDid you know that accomplishing new things and failing at them can both contribute to your success? Every accomplished task is a learning opportunity and something to celebrate. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryMaking slight changes in the way you think can have a cumulative, positive effect on your outlook. Be mindful of your thoughts. Encourage those that are positive and optimistic. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryBeing in a low mood every now and then is a normal part of life’s ebb and flow, and, can even help us to adapt and build resilience. MORE
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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Sometimes we may look outward for fulfillment. We may work to have "more" or look to others for validation. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library How do you approach a situation that makes you anxious? If your standard response is to tell yourself to calm down, you’re in good company. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryWhile relationships can sometimes seem like a source of conflict ("Mom, I can't call you every day!"), MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library An ancient Latin saying goes, “a healthy mind in a healthy body.” MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library. Sometimes our minds drift to the things that we perceive as disappointing in our lives—a slip of the tongue, a day that didn’t go as smoothly as we’d hoped. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Research indicates that humans evolved to feel calmed by repetitive behavior and that performing daily rituals can help us to build emotional and mental resilience. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryWhile relationships can sometimes seem like a source of conflict ("Mom, I can't call you every day!"), MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Sometimes we may look outward for fulfillment. We may work to have "more" or look to others for validation. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Ah, relaxation. It can provide a needed break from stress and anxiety, and yet at the same time thinking about it can touch off those very same feelings. How many times has the phrase “Just relax” triggered the opposite response in you? MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Motivation often comes without a thought—like when you’re hungry, you eat, or when you’re cold, you grab a sweater. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library “Help one another. With our jam-packed schedules and ever-growing list of obligations, finding the time to volunteer is a legitimate concern. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library How often do we think we’re in control of our attention when it’s the other way around? We want to focus during a meeting, but our attention wants to think about lunch. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Are you your own worst critic? Do you beat yourself up over perceived flaws, setbacks, and inadequacies? Harsh self-criticism can sabotage us, making us feel isolated, unhappy, and even more stressed. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryThose who are consistently happy tend to follow a set of habits that generate a more lasting sense of contentment in their lives. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryDespite what your social media feeds might show, life has its challenges. If you'd like to be able to handle what life throws at you with greater ease, the following steps can help:Get the Right Attitude. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryDespite what your social media feeds might show, life has its challenges. If you'd like to be able to handle what life throws at you with greater ease, the following steps can help:Get the Right Attitude. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library “Help one another. With our jam-packed schedules and ever-growing list of obligations, finding the time to volunteer is a legitimate concern. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library What do 90 percent of high achievers have in common? It may surprise you, but it’s not high IQ. It’s high EI, or emotional intelligence. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Are you your own worst critic? Do you beat yourself up over perceived flaws, setbacks, and inadequacies? Harsh self-criticism can sabotage us, making us feel isolated, unhappy, and even more stressed. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryIn popular culture, the term “muscle head” gets applied to people who seem to be more about the physical than the mental. For fun and engaging ways to build tiny exercise habits into your daily routine, check out this exclusive CONCERN newslette MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryHolding Grudges, Holding TensionForgiveness has been a staple of positive psychology for a long time. The popular proverb, “To err is human; to forgive, divine,” has roots in a poem written by Alexander Pope way back in 1711. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryIn popular culture, the term “muscle head” gets applied to people who seem to be more about the physical than the mental. For fun and engaging ways to build tiny exercise habits into your daily routine, check out this exclusive CONCERN newslette MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library An ancient Latin saying goes, “a healthy mind in a healthy body.” MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Motivation often comes without a thought—like when you’re hungry, you eat, or when you’re cold, you grab a sweater. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library What do 90 percent of high achievers have in common? It may surprise you, but it’s not high IQ. It’s high EI, or emotional intelligence. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Research indicates that humans evolved to feel calmed by repetitive behavior and that performing daily rituals can help us to build emotional and mental resilience. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library. Sometimes our minds drift to the things that we perceive as disappointing in our lives—a slip of the tongue, a day that didn’t go as smoothly as we’d hoped. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library How do you approach a situation that makes you anxious? If your standard response is to tell yourself to calm down, you’re in good company. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryThose who are consistently happy tend to follow a set of habits that generate a more lasting sense of contentment in their lives. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryFeeling a bit sad? We all feel this way occasionally. Next time you need to turn around a bad day, try one of these proven tips to lift your mood and help you feel better.Honor your feelings. Allow yourself to feel your emotions without judgment. MORE
From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryBeing in a low mood every now and then is a normal part of life’s ebb and flow, and, can even help us to adapt and build resilience. MORE
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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryDid you know that accomplishing new things and failing at them can both contribute to your success? Every accomplished task is a learning opportunity and something to celebrate. MORE
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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryIn popular culture, the term “muscle head” gets applied to people who seem to be more about the physical than the mental. For fun and engaging ways to build tiny exercise habits into your daily routine, check out this exclusive CONCERN newslette
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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library Are you your own worst critic? Do you beat yourself up over perceived flaws, setbacks, and inadequacies? Harsh self-criticism can sabotage us, making us feel isolated, unhappy, and even more stressed.
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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryDespite what your social media feeds might show, life has its challenges. If you'd like to be able to handle what life throws at you with greater ease, the following steps can help:Get the Right Attitude.
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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryDid you know that accomplishing new things and failing at them can both contribute to your success? Every accomplished task is a learning opportunity and something to celebrate.
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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryFeeling a bit sad? We all feel this way occasionally. Next time you need to turn around a bad day, try one of these proven tips to lift your mood and help you feel better.Honor your feelings. Allow yourself to feel your emotions without judgment.
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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience LibraryThose who are consistently happy tend to follow a set of habits that generate a more lasting sense of contentment in their lives.
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From the CONCERN: EAP Resilience Library As the old saying goes, forgiveness may be divine, and if recent research is right, it may also be healthy.Recent studies indicate that holding a grudge can trigger a prolonged physical stress response—one that can lead to health complications and inhibit emotional and physical healing. On the flip side, letting go of grudges and bitterness has been shown to lead to healthier relationships, greater psychological well-being, less anxiety and stress, lower blood pressure, and higher self-esteem.Forgiveness is the practice of letting go of thoughts of resentment and revenge. Dr. Fred Luskin, Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, notes that though most of us are not “schooled” in this practice, it can be learned as a skill. Start by forgiving yourself. When we make amends and forgive ourselves, we naturally develop compassion and empathy towards others.Ask for forgiveness. By asking for forgiveness, we inspire others to rise to their own humanity. You might start by simply saying, “I’m sorry” or “I apologize.” Without making excuses, tell the person what caused you to do or say what you did. For example, “I was feeling threatened by your feedback, and lashed out without thinking.” Make it clear that you understand how that must have made them feel, and accept responsibility for your actions.Seek to understand. Don’t jump to conclusions about character or motive and realistically examine what led to the problem. By understanding what prompted the person to act in a certain way may help guide your actions and avoid similar conflict in the future.Understand and express what you feel. Think about why the situation is not okay, practice articulating that, and then share your experience with a someone you trust.Remember it’s to make you feel better. Forgiveness is for you and no one else.Practice a simple stress reduction method. In moments of upset, take a 5-minute break to relax and soothe your body’s fight-or-flight response.Focus on the positive. Forgiveness is about personal power. Look for something positive in the situation, in yourself, or in someone else rather than focusing on old wounds.Practice. Establish forgiveness as a value in your life. Start with small things, let go of little slights and assume the best of others. Practice forgiveness every day so that over time it becomes a habit.Remember, there is power in the act of forgiveness. It can be transformative for those you care about and for yourself.
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